If You’ve Ever Felt Like A Disappointment, Listen To This | Aileen "Lavendaire" Xu on Women of Impact

Aileen Xu, creator of Lavendaire, describes herself as an “artist of life.” She helps people design their dream life and embody their best self. And she knows all about how difficult the process can be, given that she had to embrace her own creativity over the objections of a family that desperately wanted her to pursue a conventional life of middle-class success. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Aileen Xu explains how to find your passion if you haven’t discovered it, how to deal with other peoples’ criticisms and negativity, and how to rewrite the negative voices in your own head so that they become more compassionate and empowering. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT Usual Wines: Go to usualwines.com and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us.  SHOW NOTES:  Aileen talks about parental expectations in an immigrant family [2:18] Aileen describes the tension between wanting to be creative and her family’s desires [5:50] You have to tell yourself you’re a pro before you become one [11:06] How to rewrite the voices in your head so that the self-criticism ends [12:38] People are mirrors and only projecting their own insecurities onto you [15:03] Follow your curiosity if you don’t know what your passion is yet [16:59] Aileen explains why she decided to not pursue singing and music [18:44] Done is better than perfect. [21:17] You are never too old to take the first step towards your ideal life [24:09] Aileen shares her superpower [25:28] Aileen talks about the lessons she learned from COVID-19 [25:59]  FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh  FOLLOW AILEEN: WEBSITE: lavendaire.com/ INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/lavendaire FACEBOOK: facebook.com/Lavendaire/ TWITTER: twitter.com/lavendaire  Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits: New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more!  Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly. Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist.  Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab.  Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub.  And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist  Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/