How We Found Sexual Satisfaction with Different Sex Drives | Relationship Theory

Dealing with mismatched sex drives can be horrifying, frustrating and a host of other undesired emotions for both partners. How do you find compromise when one partner is in the mood every day, any time ready to go, and the other partner could check in once or twice a week and be perfectly satisfied? In this episode, Tom & Lisa break down advice, solutions, and examples from their own relationship for how to deal with mismatched libidos. They discuss everything from frequency, porn, and orgasms all the way to being absolutely transparent about just wanting to be desired. SHOW NOTES: Neurochemical Sex Drive | Understanding frequency urges are related to hormones [1:17] Solution | Dealing with high sex drive and what it means to accommodate a partner [2:53] Sexually Satisfied | Finding compromise to satisfy each other for mutual benefit [5:02] Orgasmic Pull | Considering what your partner wants and the bond of orgasm [8:03] Foreplay | Getting her in the mood begins outside of the bedroom [10:58] Porn | How viewing porn and received with resistance from some parters as bad [13:22] Okay To Ask | How Tom & Lisa have agreed it’s okay to ask and it’s okay to say no [16:29] Open Dialogue | When there is a reason for concern having open communication [19:00] Desirable | Real talk with Tom & Lisa about changing sex drives and being desirable [21:06] Men Vs. Women | Tom on the relation between feeling connected, sex, and erection [25:43] Checking In | Lisa’s advice for regular check-ins with each other about sex and more [27:35] Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits: New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more!  Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly. Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist.  Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab.  Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub.  And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist  Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices