But Why Don’t We Feel Motivated? | Self-Determination Theory, Burnout & the Myth of Willpower

Is it burnout, is it capitalism, or are you just lazy? (Spoiler: it’s not the last one.) In this episode, Kristin and Laura unpack what motivation actually is — and why we keep expecting ourselves to push through exhaustion like it’s a personal failure. Guided by Self-Determination Theory (SDT), they explore: • The difference between high vs low quality motivation • Why guilt and shame don't lead to lasting change • How our basic psychological needs shape behavior • What happens when society conflicts with human motivation • Neurodivergence, hyperfocus, and demand avoidance From dishwasher-loading rules to existential dread and fascism, it’s all here. If you’ve ever wondered why you “just can’t make yourself do it,” this episode offers answers — and maybe a little permission to be kinder to yourself.  Socials: https://linktr.ee/butwhy.pod