TLP156: Helping Others Take Personal Responsibility

Abigail Manning is an awareness creator on authentic health. She shares her personal story of freeing herself from abuse, and how we may recognize someone that may be suffering from abuse. She also discusses the important distinction between reacting and responding, why it’s crucial to have boundaries, and the components of trust that help people thrive.    Key Takeaways  [4:05] Abigail broke free from a cycle of abuse. She endured childhood abuse and domestic violence in her adult life. Her characteristics of optimism, creative thinking, and problem solving helped her rise above and see her self worth.  [5:30] Abigail is very mission driven and wanted to share her story so others wouldn’t have to spend as many years as she did suffering and trying to figure out how to end abuse.  [7:18] Great leaders feed themselves with content from inspirational people and surround themselves with others who spread positivity. It is important that we all lend a helping hand to each other, and really listen to hear how people are doing.  [10:40] Abuse can look like anything, and take place with people and in locations you may never expect. It can be subtle to severe and can be emotional, sexual, physical, and even financial in nature. Repeated mistreatment is the number one way of recognizing abuse.  [13:22]When recognizing signs of abuse, red flags include manipulation, shame, blame and isolation.  [17:09] Have healthy boundaries and when you ask people if they are ok, have it be from a place where you are direct and firm. People are more apt to share how they really are when they feel the person on the other end really cares.  [22:14] What trust stands for to Abigail: Truth Respect  Unity  Safety  Transparency [25:49] Three steps to taking personal responsibility and accountability in our lives:   Be enlightened and aware of how our life experience impacts our “normal”  Empower ourselves and others.  Don’t finger point or cast shame, blame, and judgement upon others.    [29:46] Know the difference between reacting and responding. This will help you know potential triggers ahead of time and recognize if someone is crossing your boundary lines.  [34:30] It’s important to look at the intent behind someone’s behavior. Often times it’s not malicious but they just need direction and coaching.  [46:10] Focus on what you say about yourself subconsciously, and what you let others say about you, even if they are joking.    Quotable Quotes  “There’s always 3 solutions to every problem, even if it looks desperate at the time.”  “Find what you are good at, and hold on to that.”  “You don’t have to be alone.”  “There’s no room for healing if we are all pointing fingers.”  “People grow up to be what you expect in them.”    | |